Why New Year’s Resolutions Might Not Be the Best Idea for Your Mental Health

Every December 31st, we tell ourselves, “This is it. This is the year I’ll finally change.” Whether it’s losing weight, exercising more, or kicking that procrastination habit, New Year’s resolutions often feel like a magical reset button. But here’s the truth: most New Year’s resolutions fail—and not because we’re lazy or unmotivated, but because the entire concept sets us up for disappointment and yet another excuse to give ourselves a hard time.

Here’s why:

1. They’re Arbitrary Deadlines

Why January 1st? There’s nothing inherently special about this date. True change happens when you’re ready and willing to commit, not because the calendar flipped to a new year. Waiting for a specific date to start a goal can even delay progress you could’ve made earlier.

2. They’re Often Unrealistic

Resolutions are notoriously lofty: “I’ll run a marathon,” or “I’ll never eat sugar again.” But these grand promises often ignore the realities of daily life, leading to burnout or frustration when things don’t go as planned. Instead of inspiring us, they can make us feel like failures.

3. They Rely on Willpower Alone

Willpower is a limited resource, especially when juggling life’s many demands. New Year’s resolutions often lack the thoughtful planning and support systems needed to create sustainable change. Without a clear plan, we fall into the same patterns that made the resolution necessary in the first place.

4. They Can Hurt Mental Health

When resolutions fail—and let’s face it, statistics show most do—it can trigger feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy. This self-criticism can erode self-esteem and overshadow smaller, meaningful progress you might have made.

A Healthier Approach

Rather than making New Year’s resolutions, focus on small, manageable goals throughout the year. Embrace the idea that change is a journey, not a destination marked by the clock striking midnight. Ask yourself:

• What do I truly value?

• How can I take one small step toward that today?

• How can I remain connected to what is true and let go of what is not?

And most importantly, be kind to yourself. Progress isn’t linear, and setbacks are a natural part of growth. You don’t need January 1st to begin. Every day is an opportunity to find ways to be more connected to you and to be engaged in life. Every day is an opportunity to question ideals and beliefs you may have bought into, whilst letting go of what no longer (and probably never did!) serves you.

So this year, ditch the resolutions. Instead, focus on building a way of life that aligns with your values—and give yourself the grace to evolve at your own pace...by listening (deeply) to your body and being.

Joyful (and pressure-free) New Year!